Greta Garbo, the American-Swedish film actress was famous for saying ” I ‘Vant’ to be alone” when in actuality she said ” I want to be left alone”.
This quote made headlines back in the day.
She was made to appear aloof and unfriendly by the media.
What is it about being alone that as a culture we are so afraid of?
I’ve been so looking forward to my time in Hawaii that I would be spending alone.
My family doesn’t see it that way.
They call and ask if I’m okay. ( It is sweet, I know), and I’m not complaining.
They tell me to arrange some visitors while I’m here.
They send me on errands to get me out of the house and send party invitations for me to attend with people I barely know.
I think they are concerned that I will feel lonely.
And those are all very thoughtful gestures, but I really do want to be alone.
I love getting up in the morning to have my coffee in silence, with birdsong and the wind rustling in the trees, breathing in the fresh morning air.
I like being free to watch my thoughts drift in and out, and kind of check in with myself to see if my thoughts are flowing positive, or if there are any worries or concerns that need to be addressed.
Well, what do you do all day? they wonder.
If you’ve been following my blog, you know that I’m on a path of transformation.
This week I’m doing a cleanse. I’m working with Daily Om for the next 8 weeks on the body challenge.
I’m on a path of study, doing an online course with Christy Whitman, learning to visualize my future self.
I’m also studying Crystal Healing with Katrina Rafael, Color theory with Dougal Frazer, How to get a whole year accomplished in 12 weeks, practicing letting go with Hale Dwoskin, Holosync with Bill Harris, writing this blog and learning how to take it to the next level with Ruth Soukup.
So, basically I’m not alone, as I’ve surrounded myself with all of the above teachers and mentors.
Yesterday I taught myself how to make jam and I’m developing a recipe for flax seed crackers. I posted the recipe here.
I’m learning to wire-wrap gemstones and coming up with my own designs.
I’m very productive with my alone time but still have plenty of time for rest and play.
Yesterday, I danced like no one was watching, and it felt so good – No one was watching by-the-way.
Sometimes, I play music. Sometimes, I just listen to the sounds around me.
Last week, I took myself to the movies to see “Paris Can Wait” with Diane Lane.
Beautiful scenery, great cast, lovely story line. Definitely recommend it.
In the movie, she ( an American) was so used to running on schedules, and the French man that she was travelling with, was actually showing her how to slow down and enjoy the journey. The destination (Paris) was a goal to be met.
How often do we find ourselves, over scheduled, our lives filled up with friends and family, and going to and fro, that we lose touch with who we are, why we are here, and what life is really all about?
How often do we take time from our busy lives to turn off the TV, put the social media down
smell the plumeria
sip the tea
enjoy the journey
share our lives with those we love
and spend time alone for quiet reflection?
After the movie, I took myself out to dinner to California Pizza Kitchen, ordered the Kendall Jackson Reserve chardonnay,( I usually just order the “house” chardonnay), the Caprese Chicken, and had a date, with myself.
It felt a little weird at first, going into a restaurant alone, but I really don’t think anyone noticed, and the waiter was so sweet and very attentive.
I took my time, enjoying every sip, every morsel, and thought about the movie, and how much I like to be wined and dined, the way the Frenchman wined and dined Diane Lane in the movie,, and how I might just fall in love with myself all over again.
How do you like to spend time alone?
When’s the last time you did?
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