do you ever feel overwhelmed?
Maybe it’s the laundry piling up, the bills that need to be paid, or the kids are out of school and bored out of their minds?
Being a single mom almost the entire duration of my kids growing up, wearing many different hats; breadwinner, homemaker , housekeeper, I sometimes wonder how I kept it all together.
There are so many things that stand out in my mind as I look back on it now.
There are some that are so obvious, especiałly with children, like the importance of teaching them independence ,learning to pick up after themselves at a young age and making it FUN!
ATTITUDE towards the work makes the difference no matter who it is.
I was looking at a large pile of laundry for a couple of days-avoiding it. So finally, deciding to get it done, I first had to “visualize” the best way to do it!
In my minds eye, I saw the kitchen table cleared off, creating a folding table, making it easier to get the job done. So, that’s what I did first, I organized my workspace!
next, while folding the clothes , at first, the rebellious child reared its stubborn head, thinking “why do I have to do all the housework?”
Then, I started to notice how easy my folding was going and how fast I could get it done, and before I knew it, I was finished! 10 Minutes!
so, during that short session, (Let’s call it “Laundry Therapy”) my attitude changed from negative to positive and I was able to “self-correct”.
All human beings have the innate ability to self correct.
the other big obstacle that creates overwhelm is the tendency to blame others.
This creates so much negative energy and causes us to become “stuck” in blame-mode.
if things arent getting done, are we blaming others?
i went through a period with my son, where one day we both realized that all of our disagreements were based on one of us blaming the other for something-it was as though we both saw how futile it was, and mutually agreed to stop the blaming pattern.
Blame comes from anger and resentment towards someone who we think should be doing something our way.
Blame is ego based. Ego is ” Edging God Out”.
When we stopped the blame, and began to take responsibility for our own egos, our relationship improved from then on.
There may be times when it all just becomes too intense, and anger boils to the surface.
Its important to pay attention to those times, and observe yourself. It might be a good idea to do some self-reflection.
Is it that time of month?
Did something that happened recently trigger this emotion?
Am I keeping my body in balance? Eating nutritious foods, everything in moderation, including alcohol, coffee, and other stimulants.
Set some time aside, and learn to meditate, or just take a time-out for yourself-your body is telling you that it needs some nurturing.
Mommy needs Time-out!
Sleep and exercise play a key role in self-nurturing.
I often carry rose quart or amethyst stones in my pocket, and the energies of these stones create a very calming affect. You can also put them on the bedside table or under your pillow at night.
Salt lamps in the home can also contribute to a Calming atmosphere .
Yes, life can seem overwhelming at times, but we are never given more than we can handle.
Here are the key points to help you maintain your equilibrium and a sense of ease.
Attitude- work on keeping it positive , see the bright side of things.
Visualize – a task or project before you begin-you may discover a unique solution that you had been over looking.
Organize-your daily areas and make sure that everything that you need to make your life easier is available and in its place.
Listen- to your thoughts as you go about your daily routine. Is there something you need to deal with? Take care of it. Write it down. Make a plan of action.
Blame- are you blaming others? Take action instead!
Keep your body balanced. Eat nutritious meals, exercise, get plenty of sleep, everything in moderation, meditate .
Here’s to the good life – a life filled with Cottage Necessities!